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The Defenseless (Part 2 of 2)

Note from Carl Chinn: The following perspective was written by an anonymous FBSN member who fights for children’s rights.

Continued from 3/6/22…

Last week’s tragedy evokes another recent deadly force incident (as logged by the FBSN) that I cannot shake… 

On 7-16-2020, in Wilmington NC, 21 year-old Maryuri Estefany Calix-Macedo gave birth to a son, left him in the toilet for up to seven hours, then wrapped and sealed her crying newborn baby boy in a plastic garbage bag. After leaving him that way in her trunk as she shopped at a Walmart she then tossed the newborn in the trash outside of Christ Community Church. The crying boy was found, rescued and survived.

On 9-21-2021, after being charged with first degree attempted murder, Calix-Macedo won a chance to regain custody of him and another child upon appeal. Three judges unanimously agreed to overturn the previous case that placed those little ones in state custody.

The only FBSN logged DFI at a faith-based property where the victim is at risk of being reunited with his attacker. 

It is heartbreaking to see a battered woman that keeps going back to her abuser. It is hard to get these victims’ hearts and minds to let go of their abuser, and unfortunately many never escape. Courts land on protecting adult victims, they can get restraining orders and professional support to leave, cut off all contact, and never look back. Mandatory visits put in place to restore these relationships would be unheard of.

This is not the case for children. Children are more often counseled in reunification with their abuser because they share DNA. Substantial support is offered to the offending parent to regain custody and these kids are plunged back into a dangerous situation if the parent chooses. 

Many of our churches have thriving Drug Recovery Ministries, which I fully support until they dismiss discernment and push for cheap redemption stories. I have seen many good intentioned people of faith, foolishly urging individuals (who they would never let babysit their own child) to fight for custody. Ministries often pay the way to help addicts and offenders ‘prove’ they are ‘fit’ by buying diapers, food, beds, clothes, and other necessities, with no clear picture of the kids that are impacted on the other end or the families that have fought to keep them safe and see them restored. 

 

Think About it

Know your kiddos in the system, know your foster families standing in the balance for these little ones and urge leadership on the importance of sharing with your safety team restraining orders and domestic violence issues.

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